5 Vulnerable Lessons Learnt in 2018


Hello there. This is Cheryl here. I wanted to wrap up this final newsletter if you like or final episode around 2018 with a video of the lessons I've learned this year. This is one episode that I actually made notes because there's so many things that have happened and I wanted to just summarise it into five lessons that I've learned this year.


As some of you know, I have taken a year and a half of part sabbatical. I've cut down on my workload and I've turned down a lot of social events, etc. I was in the middle of looking at what I really want to do. I just turned 50 this year, so that's one big lesson. Turn 50 this year and you look back at how far you've come, but you also look forward as to what's the next phase going to be like. That's my context. I cut back on my work. I took a year of reflection, part reflection also, but still working with some of my clients.


It's been a very unusual year. I want to just set the context. This is the year I became a single mom. I still run a global business. This is the year I decided to travel more widely and listen to what my customers and my clients and my tribe has to say. This is the year I spent a lot of time with my boys travelling and see them growing up. That's my context. This is also the year where I asked myself waking up in winter this season, "What do I really want? Who do I really want to be?"


I hope as I reveal my five lessons learned, you ask yourself on a scale of one to 10, where are you in the particular area and what's going to be different for you in 2019? Very first, as most of you know, I've been reading a book a week for the last four years, and it's been wonderful. I wanted to just kick off with the first book that have made a great impact to me. In fact, this is the my third read. It's by Cheryl Richardson, Waking Up in Winter: In Search of What Really Matters at Midlife. Some of you are much younger than midlife, but still one that cause you to reflect and think about what really matters. That sets the context for me in terms of some of the lessons learned.

Lesson #1:Dare To Be Me

My very first lesson learned, the top five, is dare to be me. My very first lesson learned is dare to me, yes. You're saying, "Cheryl, you're a high performance coach. Shouldn't that come natural to you?" No, it didn't. Dare to be me was learned as a lesson to say let the creative me be fully express. No more living under the expectations of others. When I'm truly vibrant, engage in creatively expressing myself is where I can best serve my family, best serve my tribe and best serve my clients and the best for me, myself. The stress is a lot less.

My very first lesson is dare to be me, dare to be bold, joyful and authentic again. Going back to the basics. Every day, I want to feel joyful, fulfilled and loved. Dare to be me then frames who I am, who I'm going to be and how I'm going to express myself to the world. That is going to carry on to 2019. A precious lesson learned. On a scale of one to 10, who are you in daring to be you? That's a big question, right? If 2018 you've been living under somebody's expectations, you have not fully expressing yourself, where do you want to be in 2019? That's my first lesson.

Lesson #2: Health Is Paramount

The second lesson is in the lesson of health. Very big lesson. I went on a mood swing and I went a little bit of a depression. Then I got out of it. All in all, my learning for the last 18 months and a fair bit through 2018 is take care of yourself in terms of your spiritual health, your physical health, your emotional, your mental health and overall wellness. Once that's not in place, the rest of the things doesn't matter. It's not going to fall in place.

I keep asking myself, "What do I stop doing? What should I start doing? What do I want to continue to do into 2019?" What about you? What are you going to stop doing, are you going to start doing, and what are you going to continue to do into 2019? One of the things I started this year was in terms of tiny habits. Every time I get up and have a drink of water, etc, I got into my five exercises. It's five exercises that's done immediately every time I go and get a drink of water, etc. Some of you know I go and get a drink of water every 45 minutes to an hour, which is really the time I set aside for every specific task that I do.

That's got me back into exercising and moving by body without deliberately say going for a run or going to the gym, etc. It got me to feel much better about myself in terms of my overall health. That also got me into a better space in terms of emotional and mental wellness. On a scale of one to 10 again, where are you in your state of health? What will you start doing, stop doing or continue to do into 2019?

Lesson #3: Find My Tribe

My third lesson is find your tribe. I realise coming back from Asia, I've been slow in gathering my team. That's a very hard lesson learned end of 2017 into 2018. In 2018, I was very deliberate into finding my team members for Asia. I'm glad to say that we have and therefore 2019, watch out because we are going to be back into full swing, but redefining, pivoting little bit about what we do and how we're going to be doing it.

I'm also very thankful and grateful that I found someone that I can brainstorm with, speak with in terms of the business. Business leaders like yourself would know and entrepreneurs would know that sometimes it's very lonely. There's nobody to talk to who understands what you are doing and why you are doing it. I am very grateful to have found someone who would just listen to me, brainstorm with me and non-judgmentally give me feedback. I am most grateful for that.

That is one of the main thing that I learned, where is your tribe? Who is your support? On a scale of one to 10, where are you in 2018 in this particular area? Have you built a support system? Who are those that are on your team, who can support you through? How does that work out into 2019 on a scale of one to 10?

Lesson #4: Time With Customers

My next lesson learned, the fourth lesson learned is spend time with your clients and customers. I'm glad I took time out and travelled the world into the various hubs that we are in to listen, to be on the ground. I spoke with more people this year than I've ever had in every previous year. I took more lunches, breakfast, dinners, events, speaking on stages at the Louvre Paris, in New York City, running retreats and all. Hearing what the customers want, hearing my tribe and hearing what really served them also served me because then now I know which are the things that we do really matters and which are the things we do really serve the people that we would love to serve. 

Here I am, grateful to have met and served.

What about you? Have you just been busy, busy, busy? Have you spent time with your customers? Have you spent time with your customers to realise what really matters for them so that you can bring real solutions into their lives? On a scale of one to 10, where are you? I know for sure we'll continue to have this practise in whichever city I'm in, where my tribe is, whether it's Sydney, it's Tokyo, New York City, London, Singapore, Bangkok, Shanghai and Beijing. Mumbai is added for 2019. Wherever I am, I will set up listening posts. I will engage with my clients. I will engage with my tribe because that is where we build the connection. That is where we build understanding, and that's where I know what is it that they are facing, and how can I continue to serve them?

Lesson #5: Learning And Growing

My lesson number five is my own training and mentoring. I own my training and mentoring because I realised that if I want to grow and serve, I need to continue to learn and to develop. That's one of the things that I am focusing on in terms of what are the skills that I need to be growing in 2019. In 2018, I realise now how I can serve better and where I can really be me in the authentic space. That's in speaking, in running retreats and hosting live events.

Therefore, one of my key objectives as I wrap up this year is to look for speaking possibilities, different stages - in whatever capacity to be able to speak and dare to speak. That's what I want to be focusing on. As for you, on a scale of one to 10, where are in terms of your own personal growth, for your professional growth? Not regarding the job or the role that you are in right now. How do you want to grow and who do you want to “grow up” to be?


That's my five lesson learned. I want to leave with you this: what was 2018 like for you? Was it what you imagined for it to be? If you could ask yourself, what would you like to be more of or less of? Then going into 2019, what would you take with you? Is there concern that your 2019 may end up looking like your 2018?


I would like to invite you to join me for my free online workshop called Mapping Your 2019 Success. The link for the workshop is somewhere where this video is placed depending on what platform that you're watching this. We're going to hold it live, a full 90 minutes of it, for you to be reviewing your year, for you to be looking forward to mapping 2019 so that it's successful, so that you get to reach the goals that you want.

I hope this video as I review my 2018 and my top five lessons learned has served you and able to help you to take this space and time to reflect on your 2018 and look forward to 2019.



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